Monday, September 21, 2015

My Puppy and the Pope- Kindred Spirits


















My Puppy and the Pope- Kindred Spirits

If you are in the cohort of people who don’t like dogs, you might want to just stop reading right now because I am going to wax poetic about my puppy.   I will get around to the kindred spirits connection in a minute but first, I’d like to think about each of these beings as individuals.  Let’s first 
talk about Pope Francis.

I have had heard numerous people over the last few months remark that they love the Pope.  These are not good Catholics mind you, but people who may or may not even go to church.  There is something about this man that has captivated them.  I have honestly not paid too much attention until last night when I watched a 60 Minutes segment about his pending visit to the United States.  It was a very thoughtful piece about the man and was done with great respect for who he is and what he represents. 

Here’s what struck me the most about the story.  They interviewed some of the men who are charged with protecting him.  They showed him riding through Vatican City in a very snappy white vehicle with a clutch of dark-clothed men walking next to the car.  Clearly this is the Vatican’s version of the Secret Service.   Apparently, Pope Francis does not really pay attention to their concern and nervousness for his well being.  If these men had their druthers, they would rather he not just walk out into the crowd. This of course is completely understandable in that they are charged with keeping him safe.  But he’s not having it.  He is all about the people and being with the people. In this particular motorcade through the city, he asked them to stop the car so that he could go and comfort a quadriplegic man who was in the crowd.  One of the men interviewed said that he really didn’t know how Pope Francis knew that this man was there and was in need of comfort but he apparently has some highly attuned radar that tells him that there is someone in need.  Perhaps there is some divine intervention going on.  I’d like to think there is.

Okay, now let’s talk about my puppy for a moment.  Her name is Smooch and she is aptly named, as her favorite thing to do with people and dogs is kiss them- immediately.  As I observe her learning about the world, I am struck by her incredibly open and exuberant spirit.  She loves everyone!  And I mean everyone.  When we are out for a walk, she will barrel up to whoever is coming in our direction and will wag her tail ferociously and you guessed it, try to give them smooches. She seems to be pretty darn indiscriminant.  She puts herself out in the world and fully expects that she will get back what she has put out- which is love.  Of course it will come as no surprise to anyone reading this that she almost always gets back what she puts out.  Who can resist an adorable puppy?  Well in my neck of the woods (quite literally) everyone we have met has fallen under her spell.   

Are you starting to see where this is going?  Smooch and Pope Francis start from a place of being openhearted. That’s how they roll.  Of course in the world we live in today many people are fearful much of the time.  They are fearful of bad things happening. They are fearful of scary people and scary things.  They are afraid of weather and airplanes and mean bosses.

But I have long held the theory that you really do get back what you put out in the world.  When I walk down the street with a swing in my step and a smile on my face, many of the people I meet return the smile.  When in my business dealings, I expect the best from people, I almost always get it. 

Imagine a world where we all wake up each morning with an open-heart and a joyful expectation for what the day might bring?  Imagine if we shed the fear that holds us back and put ourselves out there as loving, worthy people.  Who’s in?

Sunday, September 13, 2015

The Great Gifting Experiment


The Great Gifting Experiment

After a couple of months off, of relaxing, gardening, playing with my new puppy, I am ready to get back out in the world.  And since I spent so much time at BiddingForGood thinking about the theme of generosity, I thought I would consider how I might embrace this theme myself.  I will have a busy next couple of months as I join the cast of Our Town at Northern Stage, running through Halloween. But there’s always time in your life for helping others and spreading some goodness around in the world.  So I introduce to you- The Great Gifting Experiment.

Between now and Thanksgiving, the best things in life are free.  At least from me.  I am going to offer to help my friends and colleagues with ideas, inspiration and introductions. 

If you need….
            An introduction to someone you’d love to meet
            Some feedback on a business plan
            Someone to find just the right recipe for all of the kale out of your garden
            Some ideas on an audition song or monologue
            A new name for your puppy or horse or baby!
            A subject line for an email
            A decision on which outfit to wear for an event
            Someone to ask hard questions about a big life decision
            A book recommendation
            Some ideas to market your business or yourself
           
Obviously, I will not be coming out to San Francisco to babysit for your kids, or doing your laundry, but I will give you my time and my best ideas and energy, using the best technology that is available.  I have always been a girl with a lot of ideas.  Some of them are great, some of them are not, but who knows, one of them might actually make a difference in your life.

I will be chronicling this project in a series of blogs so be among the first to raise your hand.  The only thing that could possibly go wrong is if no one takes me up on the offer.   Think of me as your consultant, your life coach, your spiritual director or just a friend who wants to help.

Here’s to the possibilities!
Please reach out to me at perryisperky@gmail.com 

Tuesday, September 8, 2015

I Have Always Been a Woman Who Arranges Things

For the musical theatre buffs among you, you may recall this famous line from Hello Dolly- "I have always been a woman who arranges things, for the pleasure and the profit it derives." Cue Carol Channing.  This morning,  I sat by my fish pond looking at my hillside garden and all of the garden art that I have collected over the years. I sat there pondering how I could rearrange it.   I was considering whether the frogs that sit above the pond should be moved closer or whether the garden angel that I bought so many years ago in Mendocino is in just the right spot.  Then there is the ceramic art piece that I bought in Mexico many years ago.  It featured a circle of women arm in arm around a center where a candle sits.  I bought this treasure to remind me of my dear girlfriends and our special circle of friendship.  Sadly, this piece took a spill the other day and is now in smaller pieces.  But I couldn't part with them so I found them each their own special spot in the garden.  Are they where they belong?

I like rearranging furniture too.  There is something therapeutic about it for me.  It helps me see things in a new way.  It's hard to believe, but I have been known to move entire living rooms all by myself.  This desire to move things around, to rearrange them, strikes me quite often.

At my company, we had a standing meeting every Monday morning for our management team.  For many of these meetings, each person had their requisite place at the table.  Likewise, when my marketing team gathered each week, we would find ourselves drifting to the same spot.  But unlike some folks who like things to be orderly and predictable, I actually like it when things get shaken up a bit.  I observe that some people are much more creative when they sit in a different seat.

I heard a fabulous keynote speech earlier this summer at a tech conference in Boston.  The keynote was delivered by Diane Hessan who is now the CEO of the Startup Institute.  Diane has had a stellar career and her message on that day was about diversity, about bringing different points of view to the table.  If you are in an early stage company and everyone around the table looks like you, you are not optimized for success.  You need people who see things differently.  You need to rearrange the room.

This technique of purposefully shaking things up can be a powerful tool in a number of settings.  School teachers have used it with great success.  If there are a couple of rabble-rousers clustered together in one corner of the room, move them around.  Give them a new point of view and some new neighbors.  What about in the garden?  If the tomatoes were not very happy last summer, try them in a different spot next to the snapdragons and see what happens. Or on the soccer field.  Why not try your players in different positions? You might see a whole new set of skills and strengths emerge.

If the configuration and layout of the office is not encouraging idea-sharing, then change it up.  See what happens.  If you are casting a play and there is a casting choice that feels a little bold and out of the box, go for it.  Often these moments are when true creativity is born.

So I will sit a bit longer looking at my garden and I will try to see it in a new way.   I will encourage my colleagues and friends to do the same with whatever it is that they like to observe and admire. What's the worse thing that can happen?  Probably not very much.  Places please!